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Pa re nt ing for  t he DMV. washingtonFAMILY.com NOVEMBER 2022 How Your Kid Can Be An Everyday Superhero World Children’s Choir: A Heart for Ukraine A Unique Way to Adopt Season Gratitude a of LIFE ABR OAD WITH AR LINGTON 'S SANTILLO FAMILY P r e sch o o l a n d D a yca r e d ir e ct o r ie s Page 27 OFFERING the best in MONTESSORI EDUCATION for 3 4 years 2022 WI NN ER Winner Best Montessori School Enrollment: 141 Student/Faculty: 12:1 Special Programs: French, Spanish, Italian, Model United Nations, Yoga, Outdoor Education, Theater, Leadership Program DISCOVER YOURSELF • FIND COMMUNITY • TRANSCEND YOUR LIMITS Montessori Programs For Students Age 2 — Grade 12 in Chevy Chase-Bethesda Admissions: 301.652.7751 admissions@onenessfamily.org | www.onenessfamily.org Lower School (Age 2–Grade 8): 6701 Wisconsin Ave., Chevy Chase, MD Upper School (Grades 9–12): 9411 Connecticut Ave., Kensington, MD CONTENTS PHOTO PROVIDED NOVEMBER 2022 Shchedryk, Kyiv Children’s Choir is one of many global voices singing in benefit concert.  Page 12 FEATURES DEPARTMENTS 12 6 HEART SONGS FOR UKRAINE Northern Virginia –based World Children’s Choir gathers global voices for tribute concert. 15 18 21 23 27 29 EDITOR’S PICKS Learn and play with our top products for November. TOP 10 EVENTS FOR NOVEMBER Enjoy the autumn days. SNOWFLAKE BABIES Embryo adoption provides a new route to parenthood. 8 WHEN THE WORST HAPPENS Navigating conversations with your kids about abuse 10 THE POWER OF SONG Supporting a child’s grief and trauma through music 11 LEARNING FROM ONE ROOM Pre-K takeaways from one-room schoolhouses today 25 DIRECTORY PRESCHOOL/DAY CARE OPEN HOUSE/PRIVATE SCHOOL Arlington’s Santillo Family FAMILY FUN Santa sightings in the DMV DIY Build your own family tree. INCLUSIVE FAMILY Developmental disabilities and early childhood milestones 31 32 BOOK MARKED Explore Indigenous cultures as a family. HEALTHY FAMILY Opioids and your kids 34 PARENT YOU SHOULD KNOW Meet the Santillo family, world travelers from Arlington. 36 WE WANT YOUR FEEDBACK MY TURN How kids can be everyday heroes READERS’ RESPONSES We welcome your feedback — on specific articles, overall themes and anything else related to editorial content. 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KENNEDY CENTER PREMIERE A WORLD PREMIERE KENNEDY CENTER COMMISSION BASED ON THE BOOK BY JACQUELINE WOODSON Air Play The Day You Begin by Acrobuffos Umbrellas fly, fabrics soar over the audience, balloons swallow people, and snow swirls, filling the stage. Air Play transforms ordinary objects into uncommon beauty through a wordless, magical adventure as two siblings journey through a surreal land of air. Script by Jacqueline Woodson Music and Lyrics by Toshi Reagon Directed by Charlotte Brathwaite Nov. 4–6, 2022 | Eisenhower Theater It’s not easy to take those first steps into a place where nobody really knows you yet…but somehow you do it. This world premiere commissioned musical is based on one of Kennedy Center Education Artist-in-Residence Jacqueline Woodson’s most popular picture books. Sunday, November 6 at 3 p.m is a sensory-friendly performance. Kennedy-Center.org (202) 467-4600 Groups call (202) 416-8400 For all other ticket-related customer service inquiries, call the Advance Sales Box Office at (202) 416-8540 Kennedy-Center.org/COVIDsafety 4  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 Nov. 19–Dec. 18, 2022 | Family Theater Saturday, December 10 at 11 a.m. is a sensory-friendly performance. The Day You Begin by Jacqueline Woodson, illustrated by Rafael López. PERFORMANCES FOO R Y OUU NG AUDIEE NCES FIRST WORD The Reason for the Season Lindsay VanAsdalan Editor LVanAsdalan@ midatlanticmedia.com Facebook @WashingtonFamilyMagazine​ Twitter @FAMILYMagDC Pinterest @familymagazine Instagram @washingtonfamilymag Email us Let us know what’s on your mind. info@thefamilymagazine.com With November comes a traditional family holiday: Thanksgiving. As we prepare our tables for a feast, we reflect on the meaning of the season. First, it’s a time of gratitude for family—whether by blood or chosen family. Celebrate those connections together through a DIY family tree craft (pg. 11). In the spirit of gratitude, we think of needs beyond our own, as did Sondra Harnes, founder and artis- tic director of World Children’s Choir. Staff writer Heather M. Ross shares her story of compassion and charity in gathering recorded performances from all over the world for a virtual Ukraine benefit concert by her DMV-based organization on Nov. 5. (pg. 12) We also appreciate and give thanks for where we came from. November is Native American Heritage Month, which recognizes the Indigenous peoples who still call the United States their home. Arlington Public Libraries shares fun and educational reads about Indigenous culture that families can read to celebrate.(pg. 31). In this issue, we are also highlighting our pre-K learners. Ross, with contibuted reporting from Gianna Gronowski, creates a fun, historic field trip idea for families of children in this age group. Using their imag- inations, they can picture what it was like to attend the Kingsley Schoolhouse and other one-room school- houses in Montgomery County (pg 23). For National Adoption Month, contributing writer Gina Gallucci-White explores a non-traditional option you might not be aware of (pg. 15) and for Children’s Grief Awareness Day on Nov. 17, contributing writer Emily Rose Barr highlights a local musician’s use of song to help teens through trauma (pg. 21) —a difficult topic for parents to navigate. Contributing writer Megan Conway broaches another difficult topic—conversations with children about abuse (pg 18). Hard moments such as these can serve to remind us how grateful we are for what we have. This season, help lighten the load for others by spreading compassion and generosity. In gratitude, Hands-on academics. Personal growth. Ready for exploration. Upcoming Open House: Wednesday, November 16 at 9:00 AM - In Person Visit our Website to Register or Schedule a Tour Preschool - Grade 8 Co-ed, Independent School in Falls Church Contact us about our Infant and Toddler Program WashingtonFAMILy.com  5 BY ELENA EPSTEIN, DIRECTOR OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PRODUCT AWARDS For more product reviews, visit nappaawards.com GraviTrax Speed Set Create your own action-packed marble run obstacle course with this interactive construction toy. Includes height tiles, turns, tunnels, tracks and four different accessories for endless building activities. Fosters problem solving, creativity and experimentation. $129.99, ages 8+, target.com Bezgar Toy-Grade RC Car TB141 Get ready for speed. Features powerful built-in brushed motor and easy-to-use non-interference remote control with anti-jamming features. A great off-road monster truck for indoor and outdoor use. $44.99, ages 6-14, amazon.com Bunny Hopkins Swing Collection A unique handmade wooden disc swing for indoor or outdoor play. Provides excellent sensory stimulation and is a great way to develop essential motor skills. Created with sustainable materials sourced from American Maple Wood. Vibrant natural and color stains create amazing underlying wood grain patterns. $59-$99, ages 2-8, bunnyhopkinstoys.com 6  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 ANASTASIA GOLOSOVA/ISTOCK/GETTY IMAGES PLUS HERE’S WHAT WE’RE LOVING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY THIS MONTH Magnatab Free Draw Create a sensory-based creative play experience. Using the magnetic stylus, children pull the beads up to the surface to draw pictures, letters, numbers and shapes. The beads are magically “erased” when pushed down by the tip of a finger or the swipe of the side of the stylus. Great for the home or the classroom. $19.99, ages 3+, playmonster.com Explorer X Called It! An easy-to-learn game that is fast and fun for the whole family. Turn over your topmost card in the center at the same time as family members and be the first to call out the biggest animal. Uses quick thinking, focus and lightning-fast reflexes. $12.97, ages 5+, amazon.com This balance bike goes above and beyond to be the aid your kid needs to transfer smoothly into riding a bike with safety features such as a frame pad, safe footrests and an adjustable seat that grows with your child. $99.99, ages 4-6, mobocruiser.com Moody Moody Cars In this unique and charming picture book, classic cars express a range of feelings from excited to angry to help kids learn about emotions. 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A wild new turn-based family party game where players guess the size of objects in the room using 16 wacky units of measurement ranging from honeybees and apples to playing cards and squirrels. The player closest to guessing the actual size wins. $29.99, ages 6+, amazon.com For more product reviews visit nappaawards.com  T WashingtonFAMILY.com  7 CALENDAR TOP 10 Family Events for November Warm up with these seasonal activities in the DMV BY HEATHER M. ROSS 9 MOVIE NIGHT AT PRESIDENT LINCOLN’S COTTAGE Bring a picnic and blanket for a free family movie night at President Lincoln’s Cottage museum in Washington, D.C. The screening will begin at 7 p.m. and will feature either “Inside Out” or “Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure” depending on the results of an online community vote! lincolncottage.org NOV. 7 FAMILY STORY TIME Encourage your child’s lifelong love of learning by attending family story time at the Capitol View Neighborhood Library in D.C. This event is recommended for children from birth to 5 years of age. You and your family can enjoy 30-40 minutes of fun stories and activities for free from 10:30-11 a.m. Free | dclibrary.org LIGHTFIELD STUDIOS / ADOBESTOCK NOV. 8 7 NOV. 16-30 NAKED MOLE RAT GETS DRESSED: THE ROCK EXPERIENCE ON IMAGINATION STAGE See and hear what happens when a naked mole rat decides to get dressed and rock out to the rhythm of his electric guitar. This Bethesda performance, based on the book “Naked Mole Rat Gets Dressed” by Mo Willems, is best for ages 4-10 and runs through Jan. 8; ASL- interpreted and sensory-friendly options in December. Tickets: $25-39 | imaginationstage.org 8  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 CHILDREN’S ARTS & CRAFTS Join other families in embracing your child’s creative spirit with an hour-long craft session from 3:30-4:30 p.m. at D.C.’s Francis A. Gregory Neighborhood Library designed to teach kids about colors, shapes and textures. This event is best suited for ages 5-12. Free | dclibrary.org 8 NOV. 18-30 GARDEN OF LIGHTS Montgomery County’s Brookside Gardens will become a magical winter wonderland for its annual Garden of Lights display. Explore glimmering lights in a half-mile display among the flowerbeds and 50-acre grounds in Wheaton, Md. Open through Jan. 1, 2023 (except for Nov. 21-24 and Dec. 24-25). Tickets: $10 per person, ages 4 and younger enter free | Montgomeryparks.org ART AND PHOTOS COURTESY OF GETTY IMAGES 10 NOV. 4 LARRYRAINS / ISTOCK / GETTY IMAGES PLUS 4 5 NOV. 19 WASHINGTON GROVE CHRISTMAS BAZAAR Everyone is invited to celebrate friendship at Washington Grove United Methodist Church’s Christmas Bazaar. Every item at the bazaar is handcrafted. Find unique and beautiful centerpieces, trees, decorations and gifts in Washington Grove. The bazaar opens at 9 a.m. and closes at 4 p.m. Free | washgroveumc.org/christmas-bazaar 3 NOV. 24 AMERICA’S TROT FOR HUNGER AT FREEDOM PLAZA Stay healthy and support So Others Might Eat, a non-profit working to provide services and help those dealing with poverty and homelessness in Washington D.C. Registration includes a festival wit h live entertainment, giveaways and racer incentives, custom event photos, a custom finisher medal and more. Children ages 10 and younger can complete the 1-mile Little Turkey Race. Admission: $25-65 | trotforhunger.org NOV. 26 NOV. 25-30 ICE! AT GAYLORD NATIONAL RESORT Experience the holiday classic, “A Christmas Story” as told through hand-carved ice sculptures through Dec. 31. This year’s icy art will feature 10+ scenes from the iconic family tale, all from more than 6,000 massive ice blocks. The D.C.-area resort will be decorated with more than 2 million lights, 160 themed Christmas trees and miles of garland. Tickets: $27.99-44.99 |tickets. gaylordnational.com CHARLIE BROWN THANKSGIVING FAMILY EVENT WITH LIVE JAZZ Relax with your family and enjoy door prizes, Charlie Brown Christmas Tree prizes and softest Blanket awards. Families are encouraged to bring their own homemade decoration or present for the “Sharing Tree.” This event by Music at Redeemer in Bethesda will feature food, drinks, prizes, a film and live jazz from 3-5:30 p.m. Tickets: $1-15 |musicatredeemer.org 1 2 NOV. 27 THE QUEEN’S CARTOONISTS HOLIDAY HURRAH This show has something for everyone, with projected clips of holiday cartoons and films accompanied by live musical performances by The Queen’s Cartoonists. From 4-6 p.m., listen to classic songs, jazz arrangements, and old-school animations including characters from the Golden Age of Animation at George Mason University’s Center for the Arts in Fairfax, Va. Tickets: $19 | thequeenscartoonists.com WashingtonFAMILY.com  9 FAMILY FUN FAMILY FUN Santa Sightings in the DMV BY HEATHER M. ROSS Does your child have a wishlist ready yet? SANTA CLAUS WILL START MAKING HIS ROUNDS TO FAVORITE FAMILY SPOTS IN MONTGOMERY COUNTY, WASHINGTON, D.C., NORTHERN VIRGINIA AND BEYOND AS EARLY AS NOVEMBER! FIND HIM AT THE LOCATIONS BELOW. ENCHANT WASHINGTON D.C. 1500 S. Capitol St. SE, Washington, D.C. 200003 | Open Nov. 25 through Jan. 1 Enchant Washington D.C., home to the world’s largest light maze and Christmas village, opens on Nov. 25 in Nationals Park. This magical winter world features ice skating, holiday treats, the village, a light maze and, of course, Santa. Learn more and purchase your Santa tickets at enchantchristmas.com. A VISIT WITH SANTA AT SULLY HISTORIC SITE 3650 Historic Sully Way, Chantilly, Va. | 12 p.m. Nov. 26 Bring your camera and take a 10  Washington FAMILY picture with Santa in a beautiful historic outdoor setting at Sully Historic Site. Children will have a chance to tell Santa their wishes, make an ornament and enjoy refreshments. The event starts at noon. For more information, call 703-437-1794. To find this event online, search “Santa” at https://fairfax. usedirect.com/FairfaxFCPAWeb/Activities/Search.aspx BETHESDA WINTER WONDERLAND At the corner of Norfolk and St. Elmo Ave. | 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. Dec. 4 Head down to the Norfolk Avenue Streetery from 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. to celebrate the holiday season with live ice sculpting, live music and photo opportunities (Santa included!). This event is presented by Bethesda Urban Partnership, an organization working to help downtown businesses and residents thrive. For more information and updates, visit bethesda.org/bethesda/winter-wonderland. BREAKFAST WITH SANTA BY ARP See website for individual addresses | Starting at 8 a.m. Dec. 3 and continuing throughout the month Enjoy a festive breakfast feast at Theismann’s Restaurant, Mia’s Italian Kitchen or at Ada’s on the River. Breakfast starts at 8 a.m. at all three locations, and Santa will be on the scene. Children will receive take-home treats, meet Santa and take a keepsake photo with him. The Alexandria Restaurant Partners (ARP) own and operate nine restaurants in Florida and Northern Virginia. alexandriarestaurantpartners.com P SANTA: MAGLYVI; STOCKING: KAROLINA MADEJ/ADOBE STOCK; CHILDREN: SERGII GNATIUK/ISTOCK/GETTY IMAGES PLUS STORIES WITH SANTA CLAUS Heartlove Photography, LLC, 8971 Fort Smallwood Road, #unit F, Pasadena, Md. 21122 | By appointment starting Nov. 12 Stories with Santa creates an immersive experience with individual sessions with Santa. Sessions are booked by appointment and invitation only. Your child will read a story by the fire, chat about reindeer and the North Pole, tinker with antique toys, chart a flight path, see Santa’s magic key and pocket watch and get a gift from Santa’s bag and see their name on the “nice” list. Stories with Santa Claus aims to be sensory-friendly and can customize the experience based on the application questionnaire. Appointments are $350 and include 3 digital images in full resolution. storieswithsantaclaus.com DIY THANKSGIVING DIY: Family Trees SCISSORS: NATCHAPON/ADOBE STOCK; LEAVES: STUDIOBARCELONA; MARKER: CHICTYPE/ISTOCK/GETTY IMAGES PLUS MAPLE LEAF: NANCYBELLE GONZAGA VILLARROYA/MOMENT/GETTY IMAGES; CRAFT: HEATHER M. ROSS B Y H E AT H E R M . R O S S Fall is the time of year when we appreciate the hard work we’ve put in and the loved ones who support us. This family-friendly craft will bring personality and warmth to your kitchen table this Thanksgiving. YOU’LL NEED Two sheets of gold or brown cardstock paper One sheet of yellow cardstock paper One sheet of orange cardstock paper One sheet of red cardstock paper A black marker A pencil A pair of scissors A ruler Glue Tip: If little ones are helping with this craft, make sure the points of their scissors are always facing away from their body. STEP 3 Duplicate: Trace the trunk you already cut out onto the second piece of brown cardstock paper and repeat steps one and two, but instead of cutting along the bottom-middle, cut down to the middle from the top on the second trunk piece. STEP 4 Leaves: Draw or trace leaves from outside onto the red, yellow and orange colored paper. They do not all need to be the same size and shape but be sure to have them big enough to write someone’s name on them. Once you have at least 20 leaves, cut them out. STEP 5 Names: Use the black marker to write the names of your family members, pets and friends you’re thankful for on both sides of each leaf. Tip: Don’t press too hard with the marker or the ink could bleed through. A soft pressure is enough. STEP 1 Tracing: To begin, place the brown cardstock paper on the table and draw the trunk of your tree with the pencil. Your tree pattern does not have to be sym- metrical. Feel free to erase and re-draw as much as you like to get the shape you want. For extra stability, make sure to include some roots. Tip: For a more natural look, make the sides of the trunk a bit bumpy. But if you’re having trouble, use a ruler. STEP 2 Cutting: Next, carefully cut along the pencil line with scissors. Place the scrap paper to the side. Then, using a ruler, make a faint pencil line directly in the middle of the trunk on the bottom half continuing up to the middle. Cut along that line. STEP 6 (Optional) Branches: You can use the leftover brown cardstock from steps two and three to draw and cut additional branches. STEP 7 Leaves to Branches: Attach the leaves to the branches with a dot of glue at the stem or base of the leaf. Then, wait for the glue to dry. Tip: Use some leaves of each color on each branch to give your tree a natural fall look. Tip: Use glitter glue for a little bit of sparkle! STEP 8 Assembly: Slide the first trunk piece down the middle of the second trunk piece so that the center slits meet. Tip: For added stability, a little bit of clear tape can be used. Finally, you can display your creation for the whole family to see!  T WashingtonFAMILY.com  11 ‘Heart Songs AND Love Notes FROM THE WORLD F O R T H E CH IL D R EN O F U KR AINE’ BY H E AT H E R M . R O S S were able to sing their own songs in support and they will be put up on the WCC website, worldchildrenschoir.org. Katie Warner, who was with the choir for nearly 14 years and graduated from the choir in 2018 praised the choir for its multicul- tural education, teaching her said songs in Italian, Spanish, French, German, Czech and other languages. “I think learning about the structures of other languages and the etymology is really cool. I think it’s a really cool way to open yourself up to another part of the world, another people. It opens the world up to you in a way I think not many other things can,” Warner says. The Ukraine benefit will also feature Georgy Synzheriak, a 14-year-old Ukrainian refugee. In addition to supporting his homeland, the project also supports the teen’s passions. “Georgy is 14 years old, he 12  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 T H E VO I C E S OF CHILDREN FO U N DAT I O N ’ S G OA L I S TO C R E AT E CO N D I T IO N S W H E N EV E RY C H I L D W I L L B E H EA R D A N D H AV E T H E I R R I G H T S B E P R OT EC T E D. dreams of becoming a professional vocal- ist,” says his mother Natalya Synzheriak, in a news release. Harnes is hoping to raise at least $5,000 through the $10 tickets. The Voices of Children Foundation’s goal is to create con- ditions when every child will be heard and have their rights be protected. The foun- dation has several programs including art therapy, mobile psychologists, individual help and video storytelling. WCC Beginnings The WCC has always been closely connected to heartbeat of the world since its founding in 1990, after the Berlin Wall came down. Harnes grew up during the Cold War and she recalled seeing the Red Army Chorus singing on T.V. after the Berlin Wall fell and the feeling has stayed with her all these years. “I would never have believed that we’d be where we were,” Harnes says, remember- ing the historic moment. Harnes’ interest in music came much ear- lier. Her mother began teaching her to sing when she was only six months old. After receiving a Bachelor of Arts from Southeast Missouri State University and Master of Music from the Catholic University of America, her career in music had much success. She won many contests, performing on radio and T.V. and appearing with many symphony orches- tras, oratorio societies, opera companies and in concerts at famous locations like the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts, the United Nations and Carnegie Hall. She continued on this track with the WCC, which has performed for former presidents including Barack Obama, George H.W. Bush, MUSICAL NOTES: PROKSIMA; HEART: IRINA GUTYRYAK/ISTOCK/GETTY IMAGES PLUS Since Russia invaded Ukraine in February of this year, stories of the ongoing conflict have impacted hearts and minds all over the world. For Sondra Harnes, CEO and artistic director of the Arlington- based World Children’s Choir, she was touched through music. Harnes saw a Ukrainian American choir, Dumka of New York, singing “Prayer for Ukraine” on Saturday Night Live, shortly after the Russian invasion of Ukraine began. She knew she wanted to do something to help and music was the solution. “It’s just such a terrible situation. I go to singing, to my music to fill me up and to sing with oth- ers is the best thing I could possibly do,” Harnes says. Harnes organized a virtual benefit con- cert for the Voice of Children Foundation in Ukraine, inviting adults, children and teens from all over the world to add to the voices with the prayer and one other song, “Love Sings a Song for the World.” The recordings will be streamed online on Nov. 5. Before rehearsals started in August, sing- ers from 17 countries had already signed up to participate. Six more countries have joined in on the free project. Singers from Australia, Brazil, Canada, England, France, India, Italy, Mexico, New Zealand, Nigeria, Philippines, Poland, Slovakia, Sweden, Ukraine, the U.S. and Wales, are among those who have contrib- uted their voices to this project. Learning to sing Ukrainian songs hasn’t been easy, and Harnes acknowledged that for some it wasn’t possible. However, those who could not learn the Ukrainian songs Georgy Synzheriak, 14, and mother Natalya September at St. Peter’s Episcopal Church in North Arlington. However, as the pandemic evolved, plans changed and rehearsals for the upcom- ing benefit concert took place online. But thanks to modern technology being more popular and available, online rehearsals are a much more realistic idea than they once were. “Technology made it possible to fulfill a dream I’ve had for over 30 years,” Harnes The Show Must Go On said, “I’m 74, I could be taking it easy now, I Since the pandemic struck, the way Harnes had to learn how to use this new technology.” runs the choir and its rehearsals has Through Easy Virtual Choir, which keeps changed significantly. Initially, the choir everyone perfectly in sync to sing, WCC planned to resume in-person rehearsals in has been able to practice online in order to PHOTOS PROVIDED William H. Clinton and George W. Bush. Its singers have also performed for the Supreme Court, Mikhail Gorbachev and other famous figures all over the world. While the WCC has shared its voices in many significant arenas, the group does not perform competitively. “It’s about coop- eration and being the best you can be,” Harnes says. Shchedryk, Kyiv Children’s Choir Ukraine ; will perform in Carnegie Hall this December WashingtonFAMILY.com  13 protect those are most at risk from COVID- 19. This also means that more people can safely contribute without overcrowding the physical location. Students living within 500 miles of the Washington, D.C. area are able to attend vir- tual rehearsals over Zoom using JackTrip technology to control latency. Private voice lessons are also available online through the WCC. In addition to the Nov. 5 benefit, the WCC has three public seasonal concerts and virtual choir videos for special projects that support children from the international community who are in need. “There is no such thing as tone deaf, everyone can learn Coristas de San Nicolás children’s choir in Mexico to sing,” Harnes says. “I want to encourage everyone to sing. Sing in the shower, in the car, it’s healthy and it’s healing.” Past concerts have helped build a school in Africa, and held fundraisers benefit- ing Bosnia and UNICEF, as well as Haiti after the infamous 2010 earthquake. “I like the children to know we aren’t just singing for ourselves, we are singing for other people,” Harnes says. Watch the Ukrainian benefit concert on the CommonTime. Online platform on Nov. 5. Donations can be made through voices.org/ua/en. For more infor- mation, email info@voices. org.ua. Email Sondra.harnes@ worldchildrenschoir.org to join the WCC if you are 4 to 18 years old. Weekly rehearsals are held on Tuesday and Wednesday eve- nings September through May. Rehearsals and workshops for advanced students are held on weekends. T Montessori School of McLean Where Authentic Montessori Meets the 21st Century: Ages 2-12 Cultivating each child’s unique ability to flourish in mind, body and spirit ENRICHMENTS • Science • Technology • Spanish • Outdoor Classroom • Library • Music • Drama • Art • Physical Education Extended Day • Transportation • Summer Camp 1711 Kirby Road McLean, VA 22101 703-790-1049 www.mcleanmontessori.org 14  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 Accredited by ‘i wanted blessing’ TO BE A EMBRYO ADOPTION IMGORTHAND / E+ / GETTY IMAGES PROVIDES NEW ROUTE TO PA R E N T H O O D BY GINA GALLUCCI-WHITE asha Brodgins Coates and her husband tried many differ- ent ways to get pregnant. After exploring several different options at a fertility clinic, the Baltimore couple turned to in vitro fertilization. Doctors implanted three of six embryos, and the couple became pregnant with twins, now 5 years old. But after the in vitro procedure, they were faced with a difficult decision: what to do with their three unused embryos? It can be a difficult spot to be in for par- ents—if they choose to store their embryos, they pay a yearly fee which can be hundreds of thousands of dollars. The alternatives are thawing and discarding the embryos, donating to science or reproduction. “At first, we didn’t think much about it,” says Lisa Alberta, a Mickelton, N.J. mother who was left in a similar situation with four embryos to spare. “We just paid for the storage, and year after year continued to pay. After a while it was like, ‘OK what are we going to do now?’” The Brodgins Coates family did not want to add to their own family of four, and Alberta and her husband Michael discov- ered they couldn’t—Lisa would be at risk of passing Lyme Disease to the baby. Both families were thrilled to discover there was another option: the Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program. A division of Nightlight Christian Adoptions founded in 1997, the faith-based operation gives families the opportunity to donate their frozen embryos to families seeking adoption. Kimberly Tyson, vice president of Snowflakes, says it can be a great option for couples who did not have success with other fertility options. Less expensive than the regular adoption process—$16,000 ver- sus the $30,000 to $35,000 for a domestic infant adoption—it also allows prospective WashingtonFAMILY.com  15 mothers the opportunity to become preg- nant and carry a child, providing a more controlled prenatal environment. Tasha Brodgins Coates could sympa- thize with that maternal desire. “I wanted to be a blessing to someone else through my life,” she says. “I felt like that was something great to do — to bless someone else with the opportunity to have children through me.” A SECOND CHANCE In August, Snowflakes had more adopting families apply than in any previous month of the program. The first Snowflake baby will turn 25 at the end of the year, and the program’s 1,000th baby will be born in early winter. “It is just really pleasing and exciting to see how these lives that were born—and would not have been born if somebody had not given them an opportunity to be born—are contributing to the world and having wonderful lives,” Tyson says. “It is really cool.” Many donors are drawn to the idea of giv- ing their embryos a second chance at life. Kristy and George Cleaver had struggled with the decision to start IVF from the beginning. “Our belief is that life begins at conception, so it was really important to us that any embryo that we created would be used,” Kristy says. The couple recently moved from Frederick to Fairfield, Pa., got married at age 40 and 38, respectively, and, after having one baby natu- rally, Kristy’s age began to make it difficult to have a second child. One IVF cycle resulted in their daughter being born when Kristy was 46 years old. But the Cleavers felt that Kristy did not have the time med- ically to carry the six embryos remain- ing from that process. Cara Vest, a Hamilton, Va. mother 16  Washington FAMILY T H E B R O D G I N S C O AT E S FA M I LY W H AT I S A snowflake baby? THE TERM ‘SNOWFLAKE BABY’ REFERS TO CHILDREN BORN FROM D O N AT E D EMBRYOS. THE TERM SNOWFLAKES® IS A REGISTERED TRADEMARK OF NIGHTLIGHT WHEN I T R E L AT E S T O E M B R Y O ADOPTION. CARA VEST AND HER CHILDREN who adopted through Snowflakes, says she liked the program’s hands-on approach and faith-based foundation. As an older new mother, she was also drawn to the program’s willingness to work with women who were in their late 30s and 40s to achieve their preg- nancy dreams. “They make you feel wel- come and warm throughout the entire process,” she says. HOW IT WORKS Participants do not need to be Christian to be a part of the program, as the nonprofit works with all faiths. Couples are referred to Snowflakes through many different ave- nues, including word of mouth, referrals from fertility clinics and advertising. Vest heard about the program on James Dobson’s show “Focus on the Family” while driving to work one day, and she and her husband decided to give it a try. The Snowflake process took about a year and they met with a donor family who also had four children. Snowflakes requires couples who wish to adopt be married for at least two years and the individual carrying the child must get a note from their physician stating they are healthy and can carry a pregnancy. But that still does not mean every preg- nancy will be viable. As with in vitro proce- dures, the expectation is that one or two of the multiple embryos implanted will take. Of the embryos the Cleavers donated, one did not survive the thawing pro- cess, two others failed to implant and one resulted in the recent birth of a boy. There are two embryos remaining. But the opportunity for any success was worth it to the couple. “It makes us feel so much better after the jour- ney we went through to be able to help someone else.” FAMILY PHOTOS PROVIDED: T H E C L E AV E R FA M I LY PROSTOCK-STUDIO/ADOBE STOCK B U I L D I N G R E L AT I O N S H I P S Another aspect of embryo adoption that sets it apart from other adoption routes is its propensity towards maintaining donor and adoptive family relationships. Tyson advises couples to request open adoption because it encourages sibling relationships. “We want those two families over time to develop a relationship with one another because those two families have children who are genetic siblings to one another, and we think that is in the best interest of the children,” she says. The Cleavers have written contact with the family that adopted their embryos at least once a year. Lisa Alberta says she has open communication with her adop- tive family, sending photos and texts back and forth. In October, the Albertas trav- eled to Virginia to meet them for the first time in person. “We just had so much peace with the decision,” Lisa Alberta says of donat- ing to Snowflakes. “We could tell every- thing leading up to this particular moment was part of God’s plan in helping this beautiful couple.” Since donor families are able to choose who adopts their embryos, there’s also a natural bond that forms during the process. Tasha Brodgin Coates says she was drawn to one couple who discussed how they had tried for years to conceive unsuc- cessfully and also shared about themselves and their interests. “I feel like I got to know them as a couple,” she says. Vest says with hundreds of thousands of embryos still frozen, she hopes adopt- ing at the embryo stage becomes a more well-known and understood way of start- ing a family. “My kids are my kids, and I got to carry them,” she says. “I got to nurse them. I got to be a mom.”  T TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SNOWFLAKES, VISIT N I G H T L I G H T. O R G / S N O W F L A K E S - E M B Y O - A D O P T I O N - D O N AT I O N OVER 60 Y EA R S O F M O N TESSO R I EXCEL L EN C E EXPLORE • WONDER • GROW OPEN HOUSES Now Enrolling Ages 2 to 6 Toddler Program • Before & After Care Outdoor Education Classroom Montessori Kindergarten & Preschool Advanced Academic Curriculum McLean, VA • 703-356-5437 • www.brooksfieldschool.org NOV 4 & 16 18 MONTHS TO GRADE 6 Schedule your visit at aidanschool.org 202.387.2700 | 2700 27 th Street NW, Washington, DC WashingtonFAMILY.com  17 WHEN THE WORST HAPPENS: Navigating Conversations on Childhood Abuse BY MEGAN CONWAY 18  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 C hildhood abuse is one of the world’s most painful horrors. A discovery of abuse is a life-alter- ing reckoning for parents and caregivers, creating a recovery process that is difficult and deeply personal. When the worst happens, how do fam- ilies carry on? It’s an impossible, yet essential, topic to discuss to ensure sur- vivors of childhood abuse receive the care they need and to prevent future crimes from occurring. Three regional experts share below how parents and caregivers can best navigate conversations with chil- dren who have experienced abuse, and how families can begin to rebuild trust after these experiences. All incidents of inappropriate behavior or misconduct of an adult with a child (anyone younger than 18 years old) should be reported immediately to the appropriate person and/ or state authorities (child protective services, law enforcement and/or the State’s Attorney’s Office) pursuant to state law. Reports may be made anonymously. TORN PAPER: NAIAUSS/ADOBE STOCK; CHILD: STOCK_COLORS/E+/GETTY IMAGES PLUS CREATE A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE AND CALM ENVIRONMENT WHEN A CHILD OPENS UP ABOUT ABUSE “The first, and most critical, thing is to lead with believing and supporting,” says Nuria Orsino, manager of victim services at the Philadelphia Children’s Alliance the Philadelphia Children’s Alliance. “Research shows that an important factor in a child’s ability to heal from trauma is to have a sup- portive and believing caregiver.” “It’s very rare for children to make up stories about being abused,” assures Dr. Sherri Widen, developmental psycholo- gist and research manager at Committee for Children, a global nonprofit working with families and educators to support the safety and wellbeing of children. These conversations will be dev- astating, but, Alison D’Alessandro, community outreach and education man- ager at Baltimore’s Center For Hope, LifeBridge Health, emphasizes, “Trust your child is telling you a story that needs to be told.” Parents should do their best to remain calm, D’Alessandro adds, as expressions of shock, fear, anger or disgust can scare children. What is needed at this time is careful listening—without inter- ruption—and shows of support. “Reassure your child that he or she has done nothing wrong, and that what happened was not their fault.” “As difficult as it is, a caregiver should limit constantly asking or questioning the child about their experiences because in their own need or desire to want to know the details, it could inadvertently send the wrong message to the child that they aren’t ‘answering correctly’ or giving the ‘right’ information,” explains Orsino. Children may interpret this as their caregiver not believing them, which can cause them to recant or change their disclosure. Parents should remain as nonleading as possi- ble. “Avoiding naming specific people as someone who may have harmed the child is important. You want the information to come from the child directly, and as unin- fluenced by other people’s…suggestions as much as possible,” Orsino adds. “Remember that you don’t need to know the details about the abuse before get- ting help for your child,” notes Widen. “Children— especially younger children— often don’t have the words for what has happened or are fearful to disclose it. You can help your child to express their emotions and tell you what happened by explicitly saying, ‘I believe you,’ and ‘You did the right thing.’” CHILDREN MAY BE RELUCTANT TO SHARE INSTANCES OF ABUSE It’s important that caregivers inform the child that they will not “get in trouble” when disclosing abuse. “Many times, chil- dren have been threatened as part of their abuse and they may have fears of disclos- ing and speaking against the offender,” explains Orsino. “If you suspect abuse, you can open the topic during a private talk 1 between just you and your child by talking about safe vs. unsafe touching, explicitly stat- ing that only parents and doctors should ever touch a child’s private areas to keep the child clean and healthy and telling WashingtonFAMILY.com  19 IT IS NORMAL FOR CAREGIVERS TO GO THROUGH THEIR OWN HEALING JOURNEY ALONGSIDE THE CHILD. ☎ TO REPORT INSTANCES OF CHILD ABUSE: Maryland: Call 911 and your local department of social services’ Child Protective Services Unit Pennsylvania: 1-800-932-0313 (CPS hotline, operating 24/7) Virginia: 1-800-552-7096 (CPS hotline, operating 24/7) TO SPEAK WITH PROFESSIONAL CRISIS COUNSELORS who can give referrals for emergency services, social services and support resources, contact Childhelp, the 24/7 national child abuse hotline, at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453) SOURCES: 1. Jensen, T. K., Gulbrandsen, W.,Mossige, S., Reichelt, S., & Tjersland, O. A. (2005). Reporting possible sexual abuse: A qualitative study on children’s perspectives and the context for disclosure. Child Abuse & Neglect, 29, 1395–1413. child’s abuse can be extremely triggering for them,” explains Orsino. It is normal for caregivers to go through their own healing journey alongside the child. “Voicing their feelings of anger and betrayal, and all the different emotions that they will experience, is encouraged and healthy. The caregiver engaging in therapy for themselves, or in a caregiver support group, can be extremely beneficial so that they have a space to feel what they need to feel and process it in a healthy man- ner outside of the child’s presence,” Orsino adds. After all, children will feed off their caregiver’s emotions—good or bad. CAREGIVERS WILL NEED TO PROCESS THEIR OWN FEELINGS “Children who have been abused should also receive support and healing from a pro- fessional therapist,” reports D’Alessandro. “The effects of the trauma may continue to affect the child long after the incident(s) if they do not receive the appropriate help.” “[Encourage and teach] children to ‘trust their gut’ if something doesn’t feel While it is essential that parents create calm, supportive environments for their children, they will have extremely diffi- cult emotions as well. “Many caregivers unfortunately also have their own history of victimization, and so learning of their REBUILDING TRUST IN OTHERS WILL BE A JOURNEY FOR FAMILIES 20  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 good or right,” adds Orsino. “Working with the child to identify for themselves who are their ‘safe people’ and who can they turn to if something happens to them, or they have something to talk about, also gives the child a level of control that was impacted during their abuse.” Caregivers should help the child establish healthy boundaries for others based on what is comfortable. For example, a child who has been abused may not want to greet anyone with a hug but would be comfortable with a high-five. “When a child suffers abuse, it can dis- rupt their faith that the world is a safe place and that they can trust other people,” explains Widen. “To rebuild your child’s trust in adults and the world around them, start by focusing on your relationship with them. By being there and assuring your child that they can trust you and that you will protect them, they can begin to explore the world again—in small steps—and grad- ually learn to trust others.”  T OLIVER ROSSI/DIGITAL VISION them that you are there to help and pro- tect them,” says Widen. Before a child fully opens up, they may ask hypothetical ques- tions 2 or discuss what has happened to “another child”: “If your child does this, they are testing the waters to learn how you’ll respond and whether it’s safe to tell you more,” Widen adds. Creating environments in which children feel safe to disclose things that have hap- pened to them starts early. “Establishing with your child open communication about any subject is key. Specific to abuse, giving the child the proper vocabulary, including the proper names for their pri- vate body parts is of upmost importance,” notes Orsino. 2. Alaggia, R. (2004). Many ways of telling: Expanding conceptualizations of child sexual abuse disclosure. Child abuse & neglect, 28(11), 1213-1227. My Song is My Superpower be it moving, be it playing guitar— I see it all the time with our kids and our teachers: when music comes in and they experience it at a level they hadn’t before, it changes them,” Ross says. For Children’s Grief Awareness Day on Nov. 17, Washington FAMILY spoke with Emma G and Ross about their import- ant work helping teens navigate emotions through song. Personal Inspiration Before moving to Washington, D.C. in 2015, Emma G grew up in New Zealand, making up songs as early as age 3 or 4. Her first songs were transcribed by her mother. “I can’t remember many things from my child- hood, but when you associate them with music…It’s wild,” she says. She first put pen to paper at age 5 with “School is Cool,” and by age 17 had writ- ten 400 to 500 original compositions. She estimates that she’s now written between 650 and 700 songs, and she still has every one. Writing songs for Emma G was a therapeutic practice. Diagnosed at 4 months old with hydrocephalus, a rare neurological disorder in which an accu- mulation of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) occurs within the brain, she recalls first- hand how music saved and shaped her. “The reason music and songwriting are so powerful is because of the way they affect the brain. They give you a security blanket to express those parts [that have been through trauma] in a way that feels safe,” she says. At age 17, she got her teaching quali- fication and began sharing her practice with others. Utilizing culture as a foun- dation to learn from is a strong element of her pedagogy which stems from New Zealand’s close relationship to and rev- erence for its Indigenous culture.“Whether that’s ethnic culture, whether that’s geo- graphical culture, religious culture, social culture—recognizing that everybody’s start- ing from a different place, and we all need to learn from that space,” she explains. For many of the children and adolescents Emma G works with, that place is one of trauma. As she looks back over her catalogue of songs, she sees evidence of how music helped her in her own journey—glimpses of hope and glimpses of “I’m gonna get through this. It’s gonna get better” in her lyrics. “Every lyric that I’ve written I truly believe has been in some way my form of meditation WashingtonFAMILY.com  21 EMMAGMUSIC.COM I f you ask award-winning sing- er-songwriter Emma G how she creates a safe space for the students she works with, her answer may surprise you: through silence. “It’s really import- ant for the way that I teach to make room for silence and let the kids be OK with that silence because that is where the creativity can start to evolve. I want to lovingly and embracingly give the oppor- tunity for safe silence.” Emma G works as a youth empower- ment coach with the International School of Music in Potomac and Bethesda, and through Montgomery County nonprofit Story Tapestries. Diagnosed as an infant with a neuro- logical condition, she found these songs were an outlet to work through her own trauma, and now she helps teens ages 13-17 do the same. Through song- writing, they can explore trauma, grief or any other difficulties they may be going through. “The mental health problems that youth are facing are more than most people can possibly imagine right now,” says Arianna Ross, chief executive offi- cer of Story Tapestries, a nonprofit focused on leading arts programs to create safe and inclusive spaces for individuals to reach their highest potential. With additional stressors from the pan- demic, more than a third of high school students cited poor mental health in 2021, according to Centers for Disease Control. Coupled with loss of loved ones, teens could be experiencing grief, and Washington, D.C. –based Wendt Center for Loss and Healing notes adults can often feel ill- equipped to help. “If they could find their creative super- power—be it singing, be it writing a story, TOSTPHOTO / ADOBESTOCK BY EMILY ROSE BARR where the spirit has been like, ‘OK, we have a quick message for you.’” Finding Their Stories Emma G helps teens discover these messages through sharing their own stories—but unlocking those instincts can be a delicate balance. “The kids [I work with] know that I’m there with knowledge to impart, but quite often, they don’t recognize the knowledge that they have to impart,” she says. “And that’s why songwrit- ing is so beautiful and so key to this journey that I take them on. It’s about helping them to recognize the power of their voice, the importance of their voice and the validity of what they have to share.” Part of that involves collaborat- ing with them as an equal, she says, “especially with teenagers and young people because… they’re trying to find how they fit in; they’re trying to figure out a space for themselves, and if they’re being told, ‘I’m the adult. I’m the boss. You listen to what I say,’ they’re going to fight back.” “When you give those kids the space between those four walls—and it’s a safe space—it’s OK to let your spirit self emerge at least for five seconds. You can build a song around some pretty quick visits,” she says with a laugh. As a street performer before the pan- demic, Emma G also found ways to leave a safe space for others, however briefly.“When you’re a street performer, it’s very much about studying people: making sure you’re safe, making sure you’re connecting with people, making sure you speak to their pain points when you’ve got five seconds of interaction as they’re walking past you,” she says. With lyrics like, “Open your mind won’t you dream a little bigger/ Open your eyes won’t you see a little big- ger/ The chains that once caught you in their teeth can’t hold you down/ So open your mind won’t you dream a little bigger” from her hit song, “Be Brave,” it’s hard to imagine not feeling a spark of courage and joy in her presence. For teens and children looking for inspriration, Emma G and Ross encourage them to find ways to use art as a tool.“We live in a world that’s constantly telling us who to be, how to act, and how to show up,” says Emma G. “But in a world that’s constantly telling you these ‘put you in a box’ messages, it’s important to recog- nize you hold the pen. Don’t let the world write your song.” To learn more, visit emmagmusic.com and storytapestries.org.   T “A TALE AS OLD AS TIME [THAT] FEELS REFRESHINGLY NEW.” Now in our 30th year in Fairfax! NOVEMBER 9 – JANUARY 1 Sign-up for our e-letter! OlneyTheatre.org I 301-924-3400 washingtonfamily.com/signup 22  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 What was it like learning in a one-room schoolhouse? Experiential learning with early childhood in mind COURTESY OF MONTGOMERY PARKS, M-NCPPC. BY HEATHER M. ROSS T he Kingsley Schoolhouse in Little Bennett Creek Valley was founded in 1893 to serve the rural farming community. Every year, about 20 children between the ages of 6 and 12 would wake up early and make their way to the one-room schoolhouse. A wood-burning stove heated the class- room, which featured a slate chalkboard, simple wooden desks, a globe and, eventu- ally, a Victrola record player. Each school day began and ended the same way, with the school bell ringing. “I think it’s important to remember the lessons of history and reflect,” Ralph Buglass says. Buglass, a Montgomery County native and an avid history buff who has taught at John Hopkins University, American University and Montgomery College, is all about pre- serving history. He also co-authored “Images of America: Rockville,” a pictorial history of the city’s 250 years. In looking at the history of the school- house, which is now part of Little Bennett Regional Park and open for tours seasonally, there are lessons families can take by visiting with their little one. As preschoolers and kindergartners pre- pare for the next chapter of their education journey, they can learn from those that came before them. What would it have been like to study in a one-room schoolhouse? How was education different? What do we still use today? Buglass paints a picture of a historic school day in the Clarksburg schoolhouse. Recess was still king School began at 9 a.m. with the bell ring- ing in the tower—something kids love to try themselves on modern tours of the school. The classroom would have anywhere from 15 to 25 kids in the one room, with the youngest children up front. Just like today, recess was the highlight of the school day. Children would have WashingtonFAMILY.com  23 morning recess, after-lunch recess and after- noon recess. Lunch was a bit different, because of the community the Kingsley Schoolhouse served. Farm kids would bring their lunch— sometimes potatoes, meats and other ingredients—and the teacher could com- bine them at the start of the day to make a soup that would be ready for everyone by lunchtime. as possible,” Buglass says, noting that the stove is now in the back and not connected to anything. Kingsley also has a map from 1928, show- ing what a small, tight-knit community it was. The schoolhouse is the last vestige of what the community was, outlasting both the general store and post office. There are also other classic relics to be seen on tour, such as an analog clock, fountain pens and slates. As technology advanced and transpor- A connected community In a one-room schoolhouse, everything had tation became accessible, the Kingsley a dual purpose. The classroom was also the Schoolhouse was decommissioned, in lunch room and the teacher was also the 1935. In 2007, the building was re-opened nurse. The teachers themselves were typi- for an annual event co-sponsored by the Clarksburg Historical Society and the Little cally men or unmarried women. Teachers would sometimes board with Bennett Regional Park management. Now, it’s a time capsule ready to share its one of the families, as they were often young and not able to afford a house yet. Even the lessons with all who come through its doors. buildings themselves would frequently serve as community centers, and sometimes as a A mile in their shoes local chapel on Sundays or a place to host The Kingsley Schoolhouse is an excel- community meetings and activities. lent piece of preserved history, with one According to Buglass, children of every of the few additions being shutters to pro- age can find something of interest when tect the windows, which were replaced touring the old schoolhouse. between 2007 and 2012 during an effort to “We have some wonderful artifacts. We rehabilitate the aging structure, according have the potbelly stove. Typically it was in to the Maryland-National Capital Park and the middle of the room to keep it as heated Planning Commission. MORE ONE-ROOM SCHOOLHOUSE ADVENTURES Montgomery County is rich in history and options if you’re looking to tour another one-room schoolhouse with your child. These tours can make an excellent homeschool field trip or educational family outing. The Seneca Schoolhouse in Poolesville, Md. The Seneca Schoolhouse in Poolesville, Md. offers a carefully researched 19th- century school day program, taught by a trained and costumed teacher. This field trip is designed with fourth graders in mind but can be tailored to any age, including mixed-age groups. The Seneca Gift Shop offers plenty of historic souvenirs to keep your junior scholar engaged, such as Victorian-era toys, books and games. 24  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 Kids and families visiting today can take the opportunity to stand in the shoes of eager learners from the 1800s and 1900s. For younger learners, a day trip to the school- house could mean using their imaginations and pretending to be a student from that time period. Parents can ask, “Would you have rung the bell?” “What would have been your favorite part of the day?” Or, the visit can be an opportunity to get kids to reflect about what they like in their current school: “They ate meat and pota- toes, what do you like to eat for lunch?” or to consider how different life would be if some traditions remained: “How would you feel if your teacher lived with us?” With every piece of local history, there’s a chance to bring lessons to life. Touring his- toric locations like Kingsley helps children build the foundations they need to under- stand how culture and technology have evolved with time. To learn more about the schoolhouse and inquire about the next tour, call park management at 301-650-4373 or visit mont- gomeryparks.org.  T Former staff writer Gianna Gronowski contributed reporting for this story. To schedule a visit with the Seneca Schoolhouse or to receive more information, parents can email info@ historicmedley.org or call 301-407-0777. After scheduling, participants will receive an orientation packet with background materials including a historically accurate “identity” for each student. Boyds Negro School Showing children the past is an important part of understanding the present. This is especially true in the case of another local one-room schoolhouse, Boyds Negro School. This 22-foot by 30-foot wooden schoolhouse in Boyds, Md. once served as the only public school for African Americans in the area, from 1895 to 1936. Boyds is open for tours by appointment on the third Sunday of each month from 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. To arrange a tour for you and your family, contact info@boydshistoy.org. INCLUSIVE FAMILY Why Monitor Early Childhood Milestones? Why They Matter for Children with Developmental Disabilties BY FRANCES SCHEFTER, ESQ. US Department of Education: Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA): sites.ed.gov/idea The earlier a developmental delay is detected, the earlier services can begin. Developmental milestones for preschoolers (3-5 years old) The CDC cites the following milestones for early childhood education at cdc.gov/ ncbddd/actearly/milestones/index.html. F 3-year-olds • Strings beads • Helps with putting on clothing • Uses a fork • Talks so that others can understand F 4-year-olds • Uses 4-or-more -word sentences • Names a few colors • Plays make believe (acts as a super- hero or dancer) • Holds pencil between fingers and thumb F 5-year-olds • Takes turns when playing • Answers questions about a story • Counts to 10 • Hops on one foot Concerned about your child’s progress? If your child is not meeting the recom- mended age-appropriate milestones, the first step is to call your county school sys- tem. Say that you are concerned that your child is not on track and that you want an evaluation. Give specifics, if asked. For example, “No one understands her” or “He is not counting or naming colors.” Once you complete the intake process, you will have to sign a consent to evaluate form. Ask the person doing the intake to send you the consent form immediately or ask where to email your written consent. Your written consent starts the clock, and from that point the school system has 60 days to evaluate your child and hold a meet- ing to review the results. (This means 60 calendar days, regardless of holidays or summer break.) Note: Federal law sets the 60-day timeline. However, check your state laws because some states have shortened the timeline to 30 or 45 WashingtonFAMILY.com  25 FATCAMERA / E+ / GETTY IMAGES Resources: Shefter Law, PA Blog: shefterlaw.com/blog B eing a new parent can be over- whelming and stressful. Am I doing this correctly? Should I lis- ten to Opinion A or Opinion B, or should I ignore everyone else’s opinion and trust my gut? As a parent, we ask ourselves these questions on a regular basis—regardless of how old our children are. But the most important question when our children are young is, “Is my child meeting his/her/their developmental milestones?” Why are developmental milestones so important? Because the earlier a devel- opmental delay is detected, the earlier services can begin. Early treatment for developmental disabilities can make a huge impact on your child’s ability to learn new skills, according to informa- tion on milestones provided by Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The CDC estimates that one out of six chil- dren have developmental delays—and half of these children are not identified before starting school. Breathe. It’s OK. This article will give you some pointers on what to look for and what to do if you think your child has a developmental delay. INCLUSIVE FAMILY days. States cannot lengthen the timeline. At the meeting, the team will review all assessments and discuss eligibility for spe- cial education services. If your child is found eligible, the school has 30 days to develop an Individualized Family Service Plan (IFSP) or Individualized Education Program (IEP) plan. Additional tips on how to prepare for an IEP meeting can be found in the article, “How to Prepare for an IEP Meeting” in the August 2022 issues of on Baltimore’s Child , Washington FAMILY and MetroKids, and in the August/September 2022 issue of Freder- ick’s Child. What to do if the school system says ‘NO’ to your evaluation request If your child is denied an evaluation, there are a few steps you can take. First, ask for a Prior Written Notice (PWN). The PWN is a document that the school completes after all special education meetings. In the PWN, the school system must include why the request for an evaluation was denied. This then goes in your child’s file, and you get a copy for your record. Watch this video on YouTube for more details: youtube.com/watch?v=-txCO3Qhi04&t=14s Next, request an Independent Education Evaluation (IEE) at public expense. This means the parents choose the evaluator and the school system pays for the evaluation, with some limits. IDEA §300.502 states that parents can request an IEE if they disagree with a school’s evaluation. The school has two options: 1) File a due process complaint stating that the evaluation is appropriate; or 2) Authorize an IEE There are some limitations on the IEE, but the above are the two options parents or guardians can expect in response to making the request. If the school says no to an initial evaluation, there is no appro- priate evaluation, meaning the child’s parents would almost certainly win if the school files a due process complaint. Most likely, the school will either agree to evalu- ate or authorize an IEE. If the school does not respond at all, parents can file for a due process hearing. Advocate for your child Parenting is hard. We all want what is best for our children and are their best advocates. Trust your gut. Reach out for help and do not take no for an answer. Whether your child has developmental delays or not, an evalua- tion will give you answers. 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Each Franchise Independently Owned And Operated By Bath Saver, Inc, LLC, Iowa Bath Solutions, LLC, Ohio Bath Solutions, LLC, Mid Atlantic Bath Solutions, LLC. 26  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 PRESCHOOL & CHILD CARE DIRECTORY Preschool & Child Care Directory BY WF STAFF DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA AIDAN MONTESSORI SCHOOL 2700 27th Street, NW Washington, DC 20008 202-387-2700 aidanschool.org Nicole Goodman admissions@aidanschool.org 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. After School & Enrichment Activities Open House Dates: Nov. 5, Dec. 4, and Jan. 8, 2022: all from 9:15 to 11 a.m. Aidan Montessori School is a co-ed, independent private school for children ages 18 months through grade 6 located in Woodley Park, Washington, D.C. Founded in 1961, Aidan prepares children to learn confidently, think independently, and succeed wherever they go. MARYLAND (THE) BETHESDA MONTESSORI SCHOOL 7611 Clarendon Road, Bethesda, MD 20814 301-986-1260 bethesdamontessori.com admissions@bethesdamontessori.com Ages: 3-6 BMS, established in 1983, is located in the heart of Bethesda, offering two years of preschool and a kindergarten year. Open 8 a.m.-6 p.m. AMI-trained teachers, art, French and computer offered, plus after-school activities. FEYNMAN SCHOOL 11810 Falls Road Potomac, MD 20854 301-770-4370 feynmanschool.org admissions@feynmanschool.org Grades: Preschool-Grade 8 Open House: Call to schedule a tour. As the area’s leader in educating academically gifted children, Feynman School features extraordinary programs in science, math and language arts. GEORGETOWN HILL EARLY SCHOOL (NORTH POTOMAC CAMPUS) 14901 Dufief Mill Road North Potomac, MD 20878 301-284-8144 georgetownhill.com northpotomac@georgetownhill.com With a “play, learning, arts, nurturing” approach to teaching, the Georgetown Hill Early School believes that children thrive in an educational environment at Georgetown Hill. LITTLE LEAVES Campuses in Germantown and Silver Spring, Maryland; and Alexandria, Ashburn and Reston, Virginia 202-420-8359 littleleaves.org info@littleleaves.org Little Leaves is a center-based ABA program for young children with an autism spectrum disorder within a preschool-like setting. ONENESS-FAMILY MONTESSORI SCHOOL Ages 2 through Grade 12 6701 Wisconsin Ave. Chevy Chase, MD 20815 301-652-7751 High School: 9411 Connecticut Ave. Kensington, MD 20895 301-652-7751 onenessfamily.org For 33 years, Oneness-Family School’s award- winning Montessori program has served families of students 2 years through grade 12. OFS features highly trained, supportive teachers and a diverse, engaged school community. We create a collaborative learning environment where all children have the chance to explore their own talents and interests. OFS fosters students who are prepared to lead and succeed in a changing, challenging world by balancing college prep academics with a focus on well-being and shared values such as empathy, inclusion and equity. High school program offerings include a leadership program, outdoor education, community internships and field studies in the D.C.-area. SPRING BILINGUAL MONTESSORI ACADEMY 3514 Plyers Mill Road Kensington, MD 20895 301-962-7262 spring-bilingual.org Ages: 2-6; Hours: 7:30 a.m.-6:30 p.m. Founded in 1967, Spring Bilingual Montessori Academy has innovated and refined the concept of integrating a Montessori education with the acquisition of proficiency in a second language. The academy is open year-round for academic programs and summer camps. VIRGINIA A CHILD’S PLACE 3100 Prosperity Ave., Fairfax, VA 22308 703-698-8050 achildsplaceinc.com A Child’s Place in Fairfax was established in 1981 and serves children 8 weeks to 5 years old. BASIS Independent McLean Robin Dayhoff http://mclean.basisindependent.com mclean-admissions@basisindependent.com (703) 991-6075 8000 Jones Branch Dr. McLean, Virginia 22102 Preschool Age 2 - Age 5 The early years at BASIS Independent McLean comprise Toddler, PreK, and Kindergarten programs that foster foundations in literacy, STEM, music, Mandarin, art, and more, led by nurturing teachers who support social- emotional growth in every student. BROOKSFIELD SCHOOL 1830 Kirby Road, McLean, VA 22101 703-356-5437 brooksfieldschool.org sarah@brooksfieldschool.org Ages Served: 3-10 Open House: Call to schedule a tour. Mindfulness, nutrition, Spanish, dance, music, art, outdoor adventure program, extracurricular activities and summer camp CAMPAGNA EARLY LEARNING CENTER AT ST. JAMES 5140 Fillmore Ave. Alexandria, VA 703-356-5437 campagnacenter.org/programs/early- childhood pshannon@campagnacenter.org The Campagna Early Learning Center at St. James provides high-quality early childhood education to preschoolers ages 3-5. The Early Learning Center provides opportunities for each child to expand their talents and interests, build supportive relationships and receive educational experiences that promote school readiness so that each child can reach his or her fullest potential. CONGRESSIONAL SCHOOL 3229 Sleepy Hollow Road Falls Church, VA 22042 703-533-9711 congressionalschool.org gherbst@congressionalschool.org Discover this co-ed independent day school for infants to eighth graders in Falls Church, Virginia. Congressional School prepares young learners for future success, inspiring them to question, collaborate, create, and lead. (THE) GRIFFIN ACADEMY OF WESTMINSTER SCHOOL 3819 Gallows Road Annandale, VA 22003 703-340-7268 westminsterschool.com klee@westminsterschool.com Ages: 3-4 The Griffin Academy of Westminster School provides a safe, creative and loving environment in which children ages 3 and 4 can thrive. The preschool day is structured to have an equal balance of play and structured learning. Holly Brook Montessori School 2455 Gallows Road, Dunn Loring, VA 22027 703-573-7800 preschoolmontessori.com info@hollybrookmontessori.com Tours are available by appointment Children learn in an intimate and unpretentious atmosphere, where they respect themselves and others and care for the environment around them. Holly Brook offers a complete educational and social environment and uses the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help children develop more fully the potential within them. The school provides a program specially suited to the needs of a child and offers individual attention to his or her whole development. GUIDEPOST MONTESSORI guidepostmontessori.com/northern- virginia 866-202-8593 24328 Marrwood Drive, Aldie, VA 42945 Waxpool Road, Ashburn, VA 4550 Walney Road, Chantilly, VA 13251 Woodland Park Road, Herndon, VA Ages: Infant to elementary Guidepost Montessori in Loudoun and Fairfax counties is among a growing, worldwide network of schools that offer language immersion for ages infant through elementary. HUNTER MILL MONTESSORI SCHOOL 2709 Hunter Mill Road, Oakton, VA 22124 703-938-7755 preschoolmontessori.com info@huntermillmontessori.com Tours are available by appointment. Hunter Mill Montessori School provides an intimate and nurturing environment for children ages 2 years 9 months to 6-year-olds WashingtonFAMILY.com  27 to develop their independence through the Montessori experience. Hunter Mill offers a complete educational and social environment and uses the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help children develop more fully the potential within them. The school provides a program specially suited to the needs of a child and offers individual attention to his or her whole development. (THE) MONTESSORI SCHOOL AT GOOSE CREEK PRESERVE 42470 Rosalind St. Ashburn, VA 20148 571-417-3999 goosecreekmontessori.com info@goosecreekmontessori.com Tours available by appointment. Discover this brand-new Montessori school in the Broadlands area of Ashburn. All of the classrooms are spacious with an abundance of natural lighting. The classrooms open to the playground with patios allowing children to freely work inside and outside. Goose Creek offers a complete educational and social environment and uses the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help a child develop more fully the potential within him or her. MONTESSORI SCHOOL OF CEDAR LANE 3035 Cedar Lane Fairfax, VA 22031 703-560-4379 preschoolmontessori.com info@cedarlanemontessori.com Open House: Call to schedule a tour. Montessori School of Cedar Lane has been providing over 40 years of Montessori tradition to Northern Virginia. We offer a complete educational and social environment and use the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help a child develop more fully the potential within him or her. (THE) MONTESSORI SCHOOL OF MCLEAN 1711 Kirby Road McLean, VA 22101 703-790-1049 mcleanmontessori.org Ages: 2 -12 Open House: Call to schedule a tour. Offering preschool and elementary classes, Spanish, French, science, drama, music, physical education, computer, art and summer school. Transportation available. NYSMITH SCHOOL FOR THE GIFTED 13625 EDS Drive Herndon, VA 20171 703-713-3332 nysmith.com ebalberde@nysmith.com Ages Served: 3 years old to eighth grade Hours: 7 a.m.-6:30 p.m. Open House: Call to schedule a tour. The award-winning Nysmith School for the Gifted is committed to making school fun. Staff nurture your student’s love of learning and help your children learn to their potential. A 1-to-9 ratio allows Nysmith to differentiate the academic program up to four levels above a student’s current grade. PINECREST SCHOOL 7209 Quiet Cove Alexandria, VA 22003 703-354-3446 pinecrestschool.org Serving Families for 40 Years ENROLLING NOW FOR 2023-2024 T e Area ’s Leader in STEM Education Where Gifted Minds Grow Open House December 4th from 1:00 PM - 3:00 PM Please call 301-770-4370 to register! www.feynmanschool.org 28  WashingtonFAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 admissions@pinecrestschool.org Ages: 3-12 Hours: 7:30 a.m.-6 p.m. Please email for more information. Pinecrest School is a fully accredited progressive school offering small class sizes, hands-on curriculum, an individualized approach and a focus on a balance of academics and social and emotional well-being. Offers preschool through sixth grades, summer camp and before- and after-care services. SUNSET HILLS MONTESSORI SCHOOL 11180 Ridge Heights Road Reston, VA 20191 703-476-7477 sunsethillsmontessori.com office@sunsethillsmontessori.com At South Hills Montessori School, we are committed to recognizing and cultivating the uniqueness of each individual child. SHMS has a community of educators, and wonderful families, who have chosen the school because of a shared vision for early childhood and elementary education. n Language • Math • Art Music • Science • Sports Day Care • Camp OPEN HOUSE/PRIVATE SCHOOL DIRECTORY AIDAN MONTESSORI SCHOOL aidanschool.org admissions@aidanschool.org 202-387-2700 2700 27th Street, NW, Washington, DC 20008 Open Houses: 9:15 a.m. Nov, 4; 7:30 p.m. Nov. 16 (virtual) and 9:15 a.m. Dec. 2. Aidan Montessori School is a co-ed, independent private school for children ages 18 months through grade 6 located in Woodley Park, DC. Founded in 1961, Aidan prepares children to learn confidently, think independently, and succeed wherever they go. THE AUBURN SCHOOL Admissions Director, Frances Foreman 301-588-8048 frances.foreman@theauburnschool.org theauburnschool.org info@theauburnschool.org 9115 Georgia Ave., Silver Spring, MD 20910 301-588-8048 Please register at theauburnschool.org/ admissions/silver-spring-campusadmissions/ Monday , November 14 – In person Wednesday, January 19 – Zoom 3800 Concorde Parkway, #500 Chantilly, VA 20151 703-793-9353 Please register at theauburnschool.org/ admissions/fairfax-campus-admissions/ Tuesday , November 15 – In person Tuesday, January 24 – Zoom The Auburn School grows the social and academic potential of students with social and communication challenges, supporting academic skills, social competency and pragmatic language. BASIS INDEPENDENT MCLEAN mclean.basisindependent.com stephanie.cancienne@basisindependent. com (admissions) 571.789.2256 (admissions) 8000 Jones Branch Dr., McLean, VA 22102 Grades: Preschool (age 2) - Grade 12 • Year Founded: 2016 • Coed • Enrollment: 470 • Student- Teacher Ratio 8:1 • Entrance Exam • Foreign Languages: Mandarin, Latin, Spanish, and French beginning in PK1 • Tuition Range: $25,500 - $30,000 • AP Classes • Enrichment Activities • Sports • Transportation • Extended Day • Summer Program Students, age 2-grade 12, receive a well- rounded, liberal arts curriculum with a STEM focus. (THE) BETHESDA MONTESSORI SCHOOL bethesdamontessori.com admissions@bethesdamontessori.com 301-986-1260 7611 Clarendon Road, Bethesda, MD 20814 Ages: 3-6 Open House: Tours by appointment; typically scheduled for 9:45am BMS, established in 1983, is located in the heart of Bethesda, offering two years of preschool and a kindergarten year. Open 8 a.m.-6 p.m., AMI trained teachers, art, French & computer offered, and after school activities. BROOKSFIELD SCHOOL brooksfieldschool.org sarah@brooksfieldschool.org 703-356-5437 1830 Kirby Road, McLean, VA 22101 Ages Served: 2-6 Open House: Call or submit a form online to schedule a tour. Mindfulness, nutrition, Spanish, dance, music & art, outdoor adventure program, extracurricular activities and summer camp. CHESTERBROOK ACADEMY chesterbrookacademy.com 866-267-5685 15 locations throughout the DMV Spring Education Group 1615 West Chester Pike, Suite 200 West Chester, PA 19382 484-947-2000 Chesterbrook Academy preschools combine learning experiences and structured play in a fun, safe and nurturing environment - offering far more than just child care. Preschool is the first introduction to a lifetime of learning, a journey that should start off on the right foot. We help children discover, explore and learn to their fullest potential. CELEBREE SCHOOL OF GERMANTOWN Montgomery County 20409 Seneca Meadows Prkwy Germantown, MD 20876 301-540-4600 Celebree.com/Germantown-md/ Ages/Grades: 6 weeks to 12 years Transportation: Gibbs, Snowden Farm, Germantown Elementary, Lake Seneca, Waters Landing, Ronald Menare CONGRESSIONAL SCHOOL congressionalschool.org gherbst@congressionalschool.org 703-533-1064 3229 Sleepy Hollow Road Falls Church, VA 22042 Ages 6 weeks - 3 years Open House: 9 a.m. Nov. 16; submit a form for an early childhood tour online and contact rdouglass@congressionalschool. org to schedule a tour for pre-K to grade 8. A co-ed independent day school for infants to eighth graders in Falls Church, Va. Congressional School prepares young learners for future success, inspiring them to question, collaborate, create, and lead. FEYNMAN SCHOOL feynmanschool.org WashingtonFAMILY.com  29 OPEN HOUSE/PRIVATE SCHOOL DIRECTORY admissions@feynmanschool.org (301) 770-4370 (ask for admissions) 11810 Falls Road, Potomac, MD 20854 Grades: Preschool-Grade 8 Open House: October 13, November 16 The area’s leader in educating academically- gifted children, Feynman School features extraordinary programs in science, math, language arts, theater and music designed to maximize your child’s potential. GLENBROOK COOPERATIVE NURSERY SCHOOL glenbrookschool.org membership@glenbrookschool.org 301-365-3190 10010 Fernwood Road, Bethesda, MD 20817 Hours: 9:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Open House: Call or email to schedule a tour. At Glenbrook, we nurture our children in the early, formative years so they can define themselves as individuals. We strive for this through spontaneous play in a controlled and time structured environment. We believe that children can feel secure only when they understand and trust a set of limits. Their imagination, curiosity and interests need time to wander, expand and develop within these limits. Cooperative nursery schools are administered and maintained by the parents, allowing everyone to grow and learn together. The special nature of Glenbrook is the close working relationship between parents and teachers. Our approach builds a sense of community and togetherness for parents and children. GUIDEPOST MONTESSORI guidepostmontessori.com/northern-virginia 866-202-8593 24328 Marrwood Drive, Aldie, VA 42945 Waxpool Road, Ashburn, VA 4550 Walney Road, Chantilly, VA 13251 Woodland Park Road, Herndon, VA Ages: Infant to elementary Guidepost Montessori in Loudoun and Fairfax counties is among a growing, worldwide network of schools that offer language immersion for ages infant through elementary. HOLLY BROOK MONTESSORI SCHOOL preschoolmontessori.com info@hollybrookmontessori.com 703 573-7800 2455 Gallows Road, Dunn Loring, VA 22027 Tours available by appointment Children learn in an intimate and unpretentious atmosphere, where they respect themselves and others and care for the environment around them. We offer a complete educational and social environment and utilize the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help the child develop more fully the potential within him. The school provides a program specially suited to the needs of the child and offers individual attention to his whole development. (THE) LANGLEY SCHOOL langleyschool.org admission@langleyschool.org 703-356-1920 1411 Balls Hill Rd. McLean, VA 22101 Hours: 8 a.m. - 4 p.m. Preschool through Grade 8 We offer a carefully designed preschool through grade 8 program that deeply respects your child’s earliest years as a time of profound, complex, joyful, and critical learning. Information Sessions: 9 a.m. Nov. 9 (On Campus), 9 a.m. Dec. 6 (On Campus) HUNTER MILL MONTESSORI SCHOOL preschoolmontessori.com info@huntermillmontessori.com 703-938-7755 2709 Hunter Mill Road, Oakton, VA 22124 Tours available by appointment Hunter Mill Montessori School provides an intimate and nurturing environment for 2.75 – 6 year olds to develop their independence through the Montessori experience. We offer a complete educational and social environment and utilize the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help the child develop more fully the potential within him. The school provides a program specially suited to the needs of the child and offers individual attention to his whole development. (THE) MANOR MONTESSORI SCHOOL 10500 Oaklyn Drive, Potomac, MD 20854 5450 Massachusetts Ave. Bethesda, MD 20816 11200 Old Georgetown Road Rockville, MD 20852 301-299-7400 manormontessori.com Ages: 2-9 Discover Maryland’s first Montessori School, teaching generations of children since 1962. Offering school day, extended day and summer day camp. (THE) MONTESSORI SCHOOL AT GOOSE CREEK PRESERVE goosecreekmontessori.com info@goosecreekmontessori.com 571 417-3999 42470 Rosalind Street, Ashburn, VA 20148 Tours available by appointment A brand new Montessori School in the Broadlands area of Ashburn. All of the classrooms are spacious with an abundance of natural lighting. The classrooms open to the playground with patios allowing children to freely work inside and outside. Goose Creek offers a complete educational and social environment and utilizes the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help the child develop more fully the potential within him. MONTESSORI SCHOOL OF CEDAR LANE preschoolmontessori.com info@cedarlanemontessori.com 703-560-4379 3035 Cedar Lane, Fairfax, VA 22031 Tours available by appointment Montessori School of Cedar Lane has been providing over 40 years of Montessori tradition to Northern Virginia. We offer a complete educational and social environment and utilize 30  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 the discoveries and methods of Dr. Montessori to help the child develop more fully the potential within him. MONTESSORI SCHOOL OF MCLEAN mcleanmontessori.org 703-790-1049 1711 Kirby Road, McLean, VA 22101 Ages: 2-12 Open House: Call to schedule a tour. Preschool and elementary classes. Spanish, French, science, drama, music, P.E., computer, art, summer school, transportation available. NYSMITH SCHOOL nysmith.com; ebalberde@nysmith.com 703-713-3332 13625 EDS Drive, Herndon, VA 20171 Ages Served: 3 yrs.-8th Grade Hours: 7 a.m.-6:30 p.m. Virtual live tour/info session 10 a.m. daily; Contact Kmeadows@nysmith.com to schedule an in-person tour. The award winning Nysmith School is committed to making school fun. We nurture your student’s love of learning and help your child learn to their potential. Our 1:9 ratio allows us to differentiate the academic program up to 4 grade levels above grade. OLDFIELDS SCHOOL oldfieldsschool.org admission@oldfieldsschool.org 410-472-4800 1500 Glencoe Road, Sparks, Glencoe, MD 21152 Grade Range: 8-12; Type: Girls Average Class Size: 7 Teacher-Student Ratio: 1 to 5 Before-School Care: Yes After-School Care: Yes Open House: Saturday, October 15. Personal information sessions and tours offered weekly by contacting admissions office ONENESS-FAMILY MONTESSORI HIGH SCHOOL onenessfamily.org/ admissions@onenessfamily.org 240-426-2614 9411 Connecticut Ave. Kensington, MD 20895 9:00 AM - 5:30 PM; Serving students from 2 years through grade 12 Virtual Tours for high school on Thursdays at 11:00 AM For 30 years, Oneness-Family School’s award winning Montessori program has served families of students 2 years - grade 12. OFS features highly trained, supportive teachers and a diverse, engaged parent community. We create a collaborative learning environment where everyone feels successful. We foster students who are prepared to lead and succeed in a changing, challenging world by balancing college prep academics with a focus on well- being and shared values such as empathy, inclusion and equity. ONENESS-FAMILY MONTESSORI SCHOOL onenessfamily.org admissions@onenessfamily.org 6701 Wisconsin Ave., Chevy Chase, MD 20815 Admissions: 301-652-7751 Ages 2 - Grade 8 Virtual tours for Lower School on Tuesdays and Fridays at 9:30 AM For 30 years, Oneness-Family School has served families who value student-centered learning and personal growth alongside a rigorous and award-winning Montessori curriculum. (THE) SIENA SCHOOL thesienaschool.org info@thesienaschool.org Silver Spring Campus 1300 Forest Glen Road Silver Spring, MD 20901 301-244-3600 Oakton Campus 2705 Hunter Mill Road, Oakton, VA 22124 703-745-5900 Virtual tours of Oakton at 9:30 a.m. Tuesdays and of Silver Spring at 9:30 a.m. Wednesdays. The Siena School provides highly individualized, research-based, multisensory instruction and curriculumrelated field trips. Students develop critical thinking skills and acquire the tools and strategies needed to become successful and independent learners who are prepared for college. SPRING BILINGUAL MONTESSORI ACADEMY spring-bilingual.org admissions@spring-bilingual.org 301-962-7262 3514 Plyers Mill Road Kensington, MD 20895 Ages: 2-6; Hours: 7:30 a.m.-6:30 p.m. Open House: Dates every November and January; Submit an online form and admissions will contact you in the fall. Montessori preschool with Foreign Language programs. SPRINGWELL SCHOOL springwell.school info@springwell.school (301) 338-8273 9525 Colesville Road, Silver Spring, MD 20901 Grades: K-4 A progressive school offering a unique blend of Waldorf, Montessori, and Reggio Emilia. WESTMINSTER SCHOOL westminsterschool.com admissions@westminsterschool.com 703-256-3620 Preschool (3 and 4-year-olds) - Grade 8 3819 Gallows Road, Annandale, VA 22003 Open House: Virtual 4 p.m. Dec. 6 and in-person at 8:30 a.m. Jan. 24. Schedule a tour by emailing admissions or calling Admissions Director Jori Sapper at 703-256-3620 ext. 17. Westminster School provides a unique Preschool-Middle School education based on a classical curriculum; accelerated academics enhanced by the arts; and an emphasis on personal responsibility and good character. Students enjoy small classes taught by teachers who specialize in their field.  T BOOK MARKED Celebrate Native American Heritage Month with Reading 8 Books for Cultural Learning BY JENNIFER ROTHSCHILD, YOUTH SERVICES LIBRARIAN FOR ARLINGTON PUBLIC LIBRARIES Celebrate Native American Heritage Month with these books by and about Native Americans and First Nations Canadians. From historical fiction to lunch room drama, history to epic fantasy, water protests to kid detectives, these titles help showcase a vast range of experiences and lives of Indigenous peoples, past and present. 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EARLY READERS “Red Bird Sings: The Story of Zitkála-Šá, Native American Author, Musician, and Activist” by Gina Capaldi and QL Pearce Born in 1876, Zitkála-Šá left her reservation in South Dakota at the age of 8 for an Indi- ana Boarding School. After school, she moved east to be a teacher in Pennsylvania and Mas- sachusetts. In the 1920s, she came to D.C. to fight for Native American and women’s rights. When in D.C., the renowned musician, play- wright and activist lived in Arlington—there is now a park named after her that you can visit! in Canada, four cousins are so insepara- ble they’re known as the Mighty Muskrats. When an archeologist hired by a nearby mining company disappears, the four decide to investigate on their own, using overheard gossip and their knowledge of the reserva- tion and surrounding land. From worried elders to an environmental protest, the four investigate every lead as they work to find the missing man. The first in a fun mystery series. “We are Water Protectors” by Carole Lindstrom, illustrated by Michaela Goade Inspired by the many Indigenous-led move- ments, notably Standing Rock, to protest oil pipelines and other threats to water sources, this gorgeous picture book starts by explaining the importance of water. A lush river flows through the pages before being threatened by a black snake, where a young girl leads many community members to stand up and protect the river that has so often protected them. TEEN READERS MIDDLE GRADE “The Birchbark House” by Louise Erdrich In 1847, Omakayas lives with her with her fam- ily on an island in Lake Superior. As the year progresses, they move to the birchbark house, the fishing camps, the rice camps, the win- ter cabin and back. She helps her mother with the chores and struggles with an occasionally mean older sister and an almost always annoy- ing little brother. But when smallpox visits the island, no one is safe and Omakayas’ life will be changed forever. The first in a series about Ojibwe life as white settlers moved further and further into their lands. “The Case of Windy Lake” by MIchael Hutchinson On the Windy Lake First Nations Reserve “Heartbeat of Wounded Knee: Life in Native America” by David Treuer, adapted for young readers by Sheila Keenan This history of Native American life starts pre-contact and goes up through today. Along the way, it deconstructs common falsehoods about native culture and his- tory. It especially focuses on the many ways Native Americans have continued to pre- serve their history and culture since the 1890 massacre at Wounded Knee. Based on Treuer’s award-winning book for adults, this edition offers more background infor- mation and context for younger readers. “If I Ever Get Out of Here” by Eric Gansworth Lewis Blake feels like he lives in two dif- ferent worlds. There’s his home on the Tuscarora Reservation in upstate New York, and there’s his life at school where he’s one of the few American Indian students, some- thing that makes him an outcast. George Haddonfield has grown up all over the world, thanks to his Air Force father. As a new student, he ignores the racial divides with the reservation kids and the two slowly become friends. But when the bullies start to target Lewis, he’s unsure if the friendship can survive. T WashingtonFAMILY.com  31 HEALTHY FAMILY Youth Opioid Risks What parents need to know BY HEATHER M. ROSS Y substance that leaves users more prone to overdose. “Fentanyl, a synthetic opioid, is 80 to 100 times more potent than morphine. Because it is that much more potent, it can more easily lead to death,” Christo says. Opioids are often prescribed after surgery to reduce pain, or to ease pain from certain health con- ditions. The National Institute on Drug Abuse notes that using opi- oids early in life can adversely affect judgement in kids and teens. They might receive poor grades or have bad relationships with friends and family. They are also in danger of risky behavior such as having unprotected sex or driving under the influence. Who is at risk for addiction? He shares with Washington FAMILY what parents need to know about opioids. What is an opioid and how does it affect kids? Opioids, also known as narcotics, include powerful prescription pain relievers like oxy- codone or fentanyl. Heroin is also an opioid. Adolescents who progress to buying opi- oids as a street drug might not realize the prescription drugs they were used to are laced with fentanyl—a far more dangerous 32  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 The risk of developing a substance abuse disorder is higher for people who begin using drugs before adult- hood, according to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), head- quartered in Rockville. According to Christo, there are several contributing factors that put some children more at risk than others for developing an addiction. “Consider family history of addiction, personal history of addiction, history of pre-adolescent sexual abuse, certain psy- chological conditions like untreated anxiety, depression, ADHD and schizophre- nia,” he says. Other known risk factors include poverty, history of criminal activity, contact with high-risk people and environments or stress- ful circumstances. DONALD_GRUENER / ISTOCK / GETTY IMAGES PLUS our child finds your pre- scription in the medicine cabinet, or maybe a doc- tor prescribes them some pain pills after a sports or dental surgery. Even a friend might unknowingly offer your child their own pills for short-term relief, not knowing it will birth a habit. Many kids start using opioids in the same ways, and some are more at risk than others. Dr. Paul Christo, director of the Multidisciplinary Pain Fellowship Program at Johns Hopkins Hos- pital, is well acquainted with the national opioid epidemic, a grow- ing problem since the mid-1990s when prescriptions of opioids for pain management were a lot more common, and exacerbated by a rise of addiction disorders during the pandemic. According to Centers for Dis- ease Control, over the years the epidemic progressed in three phases, first with deaths from prescription opioids, then with an increase in heroin and finally with synthetic opioids and fentan- yl—a more potent and dangerous compound more likely to lead to an overdose. Though adolescents did not make up a high percentage of users in 2015, there were a significant number of them that overdosed. Youth.gov reports that in that year, more than 4,200 youth ages 15 to 24 died from a drug-related overdose and more than half of these deaths were because of opi- oid misuse. It’s important to be proactive in fighting the opioid problem by targeting youth, who are most at risk of becoming addicted later if they start early in life, Christo says. HEALTHY FAMILY Keep an eye out for signs of opioid misuse in adolescents, which include drowsiness, constipation, nausea, dizziness, vomit- ing, dry mouth, headaches, sweating, mood changes, loss of appetite and weakness, according to youth.gov. But regardless of your child’s risk factors, it’s important to remember that anyone can become addicted to opioids. Talking to your children about opioids before they have the chance to be exposed to them can help keep them safe. How should parents talk to their children about the risk? “Be honest and straightforward,” Christo says. “Describe the opioids. Be very frank about that. It can easily lead to death. Let kids know what’s on the streets now and that these are the dangers. You may not have a second chance.” Parents who have experience with addic- tion and substance abuse do not need to shy away from having a conversation about it dangers, explains the National Institute on Drug Abuse. “Whether or not you tell your child about your past drug use is a personal decision. But experience can better equip us to teach others by drawing on the value of past mis- takes,” the institute notes. Youth.gov lists some helpful tips in talking to your teen: • Make sure they were not using opioids right before the conversation. • Express concerns, but do not make accusations. • Be specific in what you have observed. • Prepare for strong reactions and stay calm. • Reinforce your opinions on drug use and how much you care. Where can parents find help? After talking to your kids or teens, it’s important to seek help from professionals such as a school counselor or family doc- tor, or find an available treatment program. SAMHSA has a tool on its website, sam- hsa.gov, which allows you to search opioid treatment programs by state. Christo says schools can help, too, by pro- viding education on drug use that is more frequent and comprehensive. “If it were three to four times a year that would be helpful—if it were more spe- cific in talking about opioids and their dangers,” he says. Another way parents can help is to encour- age children to participate in after-school programs and activities. Youth programs such as Teens Run DC—which combines distance running, mentoring and social emo- tional learning—provide teens with feelings of belonging and support while encouraging healthy habits. Children may avoid talking to parents if they feel stressed about another issue, are embarrassed or striving to feel more self-re- liant. Because of this, having another adult in your child’s life can go to can go a long way in encouraging healthy habits and decreas- ing risk. T Sponsored by a celebration of photography november 5–27 Parenting isn’t easy, but there are strategies that can help. Parenting HelpLine: 800.243.7337 familytreemd.org/flip 7 Galleries Open Daily FREE Admission 40 S Carroll St, Frederick MD delaplaine.org WashingtonFAMILY.com  33 PARENT YOU SHOULD KNOW Chris and Holly Santillo BY GIANNA GRONOWSKI Chris is an alumnus of Harvey Mudd College and Georgetown University, receiving a bachelor’s degree in computer science and a master’s degree in business administration. Holly received her degree in anthropology from Williamette University. The parent duo maintain strong backgrounds in martial arts and run Potomac Kempo in Arlington, where they teach skills such as “breathing through breathless times.” Together, they embody the phrase “a healthy mind in a healthy body.” The Santillos believe broadening chil- dren’s worldviews and supporting an open mind lead to resilient adults. At home in Virginia with friends and family, they love to spend time in Old Towne, where their roots are. Their family can now be found traversing the globe and living out a nomadic lifestyle, from the vast dune sea of Mongolia’s Gobi Desert, to the snowy landscape aboard the Trans-Siberian Railway. The family’s newfound favorite activity is hiking, citing it as an escape from all other distractions. You believe in “a healthy mind in a healthy body.” How does this influence your parenting? As parents, we all spend a lot of energy mak- ing sure our children learn what they need to learn—and rightly so. But nurturing a healthy mind isn’t that simple. Our physical state has a tremendous effect on our mental, as well as emotional, states. So, as we work 34  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 to raise children who are mentally and emo- tionally happy, healthy and resilient, we will only succeed if we make sure that they are also physically happy, healthy and resilient. How do the principles of martial arts translate to parenting? The martial arts—when properly taught— are a methodology for life. How to positively interact with others, how to overcome chal- lenges, when to yield, and when to stand firm... thus it shouldn’t surprise us that par- allel principles will come to light in life, as well as parenting. We personally can’t begin to count how many times we have used martial arts training as a metaphor to illus- trate and clarify challenging concepts or situations that confront our family. Did the ideas of opening minds and broadening horizons to develop strong, resilient adults lead you to travel with your boys? Absolutely. We traveled full-time with our children for almost three years. We were on a PHOTO PROVIDED Not your average authors, Chris and Holly Santillo have embarked on an adventure with their three sons around the globe that embodies the message in their book, “Resilience Parenting: Raising Resilient Children in an Era of Detachment and Dependence.” quest to explore the world inside and outside of ourselves to learn to live more thought- fully. Horizons definitely broadened, and resilience definitely developed in ourselves as well as our children! But, we think it is fair to say that practicing the martial arts helped get us started—it took a certain amount of breadth and resilience just to walk out the door. But as we traveled, we all gained access to more of what the world has to offer us. Resilience is like a muscle. Use it, and it will grow. Ignore it, and it will atrophy. It can be difficult to balance work with family life. Does having your children with you on the road make it easier? Yes and no. While traveling, we spent an inor- dinate amount of time together—sometimes in a cramped bus, or five of us sharing a hotel room meant for four, or… you get the idea. We also ate every meal together and held hands to speak our family credo, which recalls grati- tude and joy. If anything, the experience really brought into focus something all of us know: relationships are not built out of the hours we spend together but by the quality of the expe- rience. Time spent in the same room staring at screens is not the same as time spent walking and talking.  T HOLIDAY EVENTS, LIGH TS AND MORE INSIDE washi ngtonFAMIL Y.com DECEMBER Smart. Local. Parenting for the DMV. 2021 Ti ps for the Best Family Photos Capture Holid ay MEMORIES NAPPA Awards Toy Picks for Top Kids Moodiness or Mental Illness? Is My Child OK? Change Makers in the DMV FAMILY FAVORITES Favorite destination throughout your travels We’ve been to thirty-two countries in the last couple of years, and every one has been amazing in its own way. What really matters is the experience that you have, and far more important than political boundaries are connecting with the people within them. Favorite martial arts skill Breathing through breathless times. Favorite way to spend the weekend together Definitely hiking. For our family, there is no better way for us to escape all of the other distractions of life and just be present with each other, ourselves, and the beautiful world around us. Favorite international meal Mongolian Khorkhog, a dish of goat, potatoes, onions, and carrots cooked with stones in a pot buried in the ground. Favorite local spot in Alexandria We’ve always liked Old Towne, having lived there before the kids were born, but since we aren’t back in the area much anymore, all of our focus is on spending time with the people that make Alexandria great. Advertise in our December Issue! HOLIDAY HAPPENINGS, GIFT GUIDE, CHARITABLE GIVING, FAMILY HEALTH and more news that parents need. SMART. LOCAL. PARENTING FOR THE DMV. Print | Digital | EMAIL us at advertising@ washingtonfamily.com OR CALL us at 301-230-2222, EXT. 2 WashingtonFAMILY.com  35 MY TURN On Heroes and Superheroes Heroes aren’t losers when they fail; they are winners because they try. BY PATRICIA VELKOFF, PHD. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton took place at a time when many found these efforts both rash and contemptible. Ditto the civil rights efforts of Martin Luther King, Jr., Cesar Chavez, Elie Wiesel, Harvey Milk, Nelson Mandela, Desmond Tutu and Malala Yousafzai. None of these figures accomplished everything they wanted, and they certainly did not have the benefit of cinematic tricks. Their heroism was in the attempt, in the willingness to take great risks for the sake of principles and beliefs. It’s important to recognize that heroes also act despite their personal flaws and limitations. Abraham Lincoln led the U.S. through a significant military conflict, as well as a constitutional and moral crisis. He kept the country from splitting in two, despite having fierce enemies, and while suf- fering from severe bouts of depression. Like so many other heroes, Lincoln exceeded his 36  Washington FAMILY  NOVEMBER 2022 flaws and exceeded the predictions of many of his contemporaries. He was heroic, in part because of those flaws, not in spite of them. Don’t get me wrong. I am in awe of the skill it takes to create all man- ner of superhero special effects. But our children need models of ordinary humans who try to do the right thing even when it’s hard, even when no one else is doing it, even when they are not sure how it will turn out. Superheroes don’t quite fill that role. I challenge parents to model heroism and to point out the heroic acts they see in the most commonplace situations. If we are paying attention, we will notice small brave moments all around us: admitting to an embar- rassing mistake and offering to fix it; stating an unpopular opinion or belief; speaking up when a clas- sist or racist statement is made; asking people to listen to each other with respect; not chiming in when others are gossiping. Then we can talk with our children about what made these moments heroic. It’s that simple. No cool tricks or impressive theatrics. Just ordinary heroes taking real everyday risks, unsure of the outcome but sure of what is right, hon- orable and just. For inspiration, stories of child heroes can be found at awesomelibrary.org/Classroom/ Social_Studies/World_Peace/Heroes_and_ Heroism/Child_Heroes.html Social psychologist Philip Zimbardo shows people of all ages how to be everyday heroes. His work can be found at: hero- icimagination.org. n Dr. Velkoff is a clinical psychologist in Vienna, Virginia who works with children, adolescents, couples, and families. www.patricia-velkoff.com | 703-938-6100 PROVIDED PHOTO S uperheroes in movies have come a long way from the days of daredevil martial arts and aerial tricks. Today’s superheroes dazzle us with their impenetrable shields, indestructible skin, retractable claws, web shooters and mentally- controlled chains. Oh, and let’s not forget about telekinesis and telepathy. Very cool, indeed. After the thrill, I am left with a few questions. What do our chil- dren learn about heroism from these superheroes? Will they come away believing that cour- age comes from having magical powers? How will they figure out that true bravery is someone mak- ing the decision to do what is right when it’s hard, or painful, or awk- ward or risky? When I talk with children about superheroes, they describe mysti- cal skills, fantastic powers and all kinds of amazing feats. Even with more questioning, most don’t mention what these superheroes are trying to accomplish, like saving the world from evil, defending the defenseless or fighting for justice. Most children aren’t absorbing les- sons about how to walk through daily life as everyday heroes, choosing to do what is challenging but just, difficult but right. I’m not sure they see that real-life heroes are actually ordinary humans who simply act with independence and bravery when they see others who are heartless or hurt- ful, unkind or unfair, callous or cruel. With no special powers or skills, heroes show us what every one of us can be, at our best. Heroes aren’t losers when they fail; they are winners because they try. 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